How do you love yourself?
I think self-love is such a personal and unique word. If you want to understand what it means, you would have to own its meaning.
Does the word “Self love” exist in your life? Are you aware of how much you love yourself?
I’ve interacted with so many people this year and have seen a common trend among everyone I know. Everyone seems to be very busy. Life has become so busy the days seem to disappear quickly. No wonder people don’t seem to have time for themselves.
I’ve always tried to take care of myself. Having kids, a career, and a long to-do list, it can become an impossible task to have a relationship with yourself.
Yes, a relationship with yourself. Loving myself was an idea I held on tightly when I got married and had kids. It was apparent that in our house, many relationships existed, and for there to be balanced and happy energy in the home we were building, we needed to identify those relationships and respect it.
Do we see the relationships that exist in our lives?
The first and most important relationship for me is between me and my higher being God.
The second most important relationship is between me and myself. If you want to have a beautiful and positive relationship with your kids, husband, friends, colleagues, and whoever else exists in your world, then you need to be in a positive relationship with yourself.
- Learn to love yourself.
- How can you love others when the person you see in the mirror every day isn’t loving you.
- Think about how much you love yourself for a minute.
- When was the last time you did something for yourself?
- Do people always surround you?
- When was the last time you were completely alone?
- Do you like being alone?
- When you are alone, how does this make you feel?
If you struggled to answer some of these questions, then you need to remember to love yourself.
Taking time for yourself is your right!
As mothers and wives, we do tend to feel guilty when we give attention to ourselves. We would instead provide as much of ourselves to the relationships that we have with others and ignore the relationship we should be having with ourselves.
I’ve practiced self- love for years. I have kept it to myself in fear of being judged by mums with kids and husbands. There was an occasion where I felt brave enough to declare the importance of putting yourself first. Of course, my audience stared at me in judgment.
I could hear the silent questions that mums like me wanted to say to me, but held back because they didn’t want to sound envious. Would I have thought they were jealous if they said it loud? No, I would not confuse their words for envy, but instead confusion.
It’s hard for any person that has the responsibility of caring for their family to imagine going out with friends and enjoying yourself on a school night or leaving the kids with hubby to spend a day with yourself doing whatever you feel like doing. How can time away from those responsibilities make sense?
Some might argue that if you are not spending time with yourself, learning who you are and what you all about does not mean you don’t love yourself. Yes, I am in no way suggesting that we do not love ourselves if we choose to stay connected to our family, work, and life responsibilities.
Are we taking time out for ourselves?
Maybe we should take a day to sit alone and be with our thoughts.
This year has been about loving myself more and spending time discovering who I am.
I have learned that I can be an impatient person, and I would confuse my lack of patience at times for stress. How did I get to this perspective of my emotions? I have started paying attention to who I am.
- I sit in my presence, and I take note of the things that energize me.
- I am an energy that exists in the world.
- My energy defines the happiness I reflect on others.
- My thoughts on who I am control my interactions with my family, friends, and colleagues.
- The words that I speak to myself empower the thoughts that linger in my head.
- I have learned to be around people without thoughts of judgment.
- I accept people for who they are and respect their lifestyles.
- My thoughts are positive and peaceful.
- I have learned to deal with stress by surrounding myself with peace.
- I stand in the presence of myself and God.
- I accept who I am and accept that I can only change myself from the inside outwards.
- My physical appearance is the creation of my being. I accept that I can gain weight, lose weight, dress up, dress down, cut my hair, grow it long, wear makeup, wear no makeup, but my skin color, hair color, eye color, height, body shape, hair texture is the reason I am me.
- The changes that I make in my life are the result of the love that I give myself.
- The only person that will love me unconditionally is Me.
- The love I have for myself has no agenda.
- I forgive myself and forgive others.
- I have let go of the past and focus on the present.
- I am here, and I am living my best life.
- People may come and go, kids will grow up, spouses and partners will age and die, but if I am still around, I will have me and the love I have for myself.
- Life is not perfect; there are no perfect relationships, no perfect days, no perfect people.
- There are blessed relationships, blessed days, and blessed moments with the people in our lives.
Self- love exists when you exist!
Remember to love yourself.
Remember that the only person whose judgments, thoughts, opinions matter are yours.
We can be our biggest critics!
Change your words, and you will change your life.
Gift yourself time!
We are saying I am busy way too often that it sounds like a complaint. There is not enough time. Are you saying this way too often to others?
Do things that make you feel happy!
Discover yourself.
Don’t wait for things to change in your life. Become the change in your life.
Love yourself and live your best life!
Superlady!
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