Do you need a safe space?

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My safety is very important to me. I am sure many people feel exactly like me when it comes to safeguarding themselves.

I am very blessed to live in a country with little to no crime. I know that there are people who have to go to great lengths to make sure they feel safe.

However, I am not referring to physical safety, but my direction on this post is mental safety.

Do you ever think of protecting your thoughts, feelings, and inner self?

I have always been very cautious of who I trust. I use to think that maybe I could have trust issues. After much self-reflection and self- evaluation, I came to the understanding that all I needed was a safe space to speak.

Many of us need a safe space

We often just don’t know where that safe space is?

Where can we go to speak openly and freely with no judgment?

Who can we trust with our inner and most sensitive feelings?

I heard about therapy, but I knew it was not what I needed.  My past was important to me, but it was my future that needed my focus.

I spend many years in silence because I didn’t know who could guide me towards achieving my goals . I could not turn to my friends because I needed a person who did not know my life.  I wanted my communication and feelings to come from a place unknown to the person who was listening.

With these ideas in my head, I began my journey of self-discovery. I began to think of how I could use my life experiences and knowledge to help others who were suffering from mental stress, worries, anxiety, and just that feeling of being overwhelmed.

The word safe space kept lingering in my thoughts. I knew that I wanted to provide a space that held no judgment, and that would feel secure for someone.

I wanted to become part of the journey and guide the person talking to me to achieve their true selves.  I knew that I would never know the answers to their life problems, but I would offer support and an ear to listen. I would ask questions that would help them understand what exactly was going on in their lives and how they could solve their problems.

For me to give others what I had never had become my mission. That is when my journey as a life coach began.

I went for training and took the education I was learning to empower others. That safe space that I knew people needed in their lives was becoming a reality.

I watched my clients sink back as the weight of the world was slowly shifting from them. I sat in silence, allowing my clients to speak freely without interruption, without judgment, without comparison and without unnecessary advice that they did not need.

Do you need a safe space?

We all want someone to listen. I remember days when all I needed was a caring ear. I was not searching for advice, and I certainly didn’t want anyone to fix me. I already knew ways to help myself. What I realized after becoming the person I am today was that I needed a safe space to talk freely.

If you are struggling with your thoughts and emotions, maybe it’s time for you to find your safe space.

There are many options available to give you support, trust, and encouragement.

Coaches are not psychologists and therapists. Coaches help clients focus on the present and future.

What does a life coach do exactly?

Life coaches form a partnership of trust and respect with their clients. The relationship between a coach and client is equal. The life coach helps and guides the client through questions and techniques to develop an action plan and a way of thinking to achieve goals and success in different aspects of their life.   Life coaches trust that the client can achieve what they need to in their lives. Just like an onion has layers, so does a person. When a life coach works with a client, those layers slowly get unpeeled.

How is a life coach different from a therapist?

A life coach, motivates, encourages, and helps a client look towards the future instead of focusing on the past.

Therapy focuses on helping the client deal with past issues in order for the client to move forward and look towards the future.

Here are a few signs that you need a life coach

• You are struggling to achieve the goals you have made for yourself
• You want to achieve things in your life, but you don’t know-how
• You feel like you are procrastinating
• You are thinking of changing your profession, but you don’t have a clear plan
• You want to improve your health and lifestyle
• You find it difficult to complete tasks
• You have relationship issues
• You feel unhappy but don’t know why you feel this way
• You have financial struggles
• You feel alone and unhappy
• You lack confidence
• You have work stress
• You feel emotional
• You need a safe space to speak openly and freely

 

Gift yourself the life you were destined to have. Finding the right support and help can help can make a the world of difference to you.

Whatever you are going through, remember that you are not alone. Somewhere someone is willing to help you.

May you find your safe space!

Superlady!